Your actions determine who you become. It is how you behave and deal with situations that ultimately impact your life.
Do not blame others for how your life turns out to be. It is not because of them. Of course, the actions of others might have some impact on your life, especially your close friends and family. But the real truth is that you will always be responsible for your life.
Your decisions and actions are crucial in shaping up your life. So start taking responsibility.
There are things you can control in life. And there are things you can’t control in life. For instance, you can control how you think, feel, and act; whom you spend time with; your happiness; and your choices in life.
On the other hand, you can’t control other people’s thoughts, feelings, and actions; past incidents; and nature’s activities.
Focus on things you can control. You can take 100% responsibility for the things you can control. If you focus on them, you can transform your life the way you want it to be.
- Think good thoughts
- Do more things that make you feel good
- Act responsibly
- Stop blaming
- Stop complaining
- Don’t take anything personally
- Beware of what you speak
- Make yourself happy
- Do good to others
- Live in the present moment
These are a few examples of the things you can control. Doing them allows you to take responsibility for your life.
Nobody Is Going To Save You
Don’t wait around for somebody to save you, fix you, or help you, not even God. It does not mean that you should not have faith in others. You should. But don’t rely on them completely.
You might have friends and family who genuinely care about you. They help you and take care of you. They are always there for you when you need them. But ultimately, your decisions and actions will have the most impact on your life.
Suppose you went through a horrible breakup with your boyfriend or girlfriend. You are sad. It feels like your life has turned upside down. You are feeling low. There is nothing you want to do.
Your friends try to console you. They want you to feel better, so they help you get over your breakup.
You might feel a little better because of your friends. But unless it comes from within you, no matter what your friends do, you will not be able to get over the breakup.
It has to be you who decides to move on. It has to be you who does not let the breakup affect your life. Ultimately, it is your decision that is going to matter. That is to say, you are responsible for your happiness.
God Is Waiting On You
Oprah Winfrey once said:
“All the time I was praying to God asking for God to do something, God was waiting on me.”
Indian actor, Nawazuddin Siddiqui, said something similar in Hindi, which I will paraphrase in English. He said:
“Don’t rely on God. Who knows, God was relying on you the whole time. God waits on you. He wants you to get up and do something—take action—so that he can help you. God doesn’t support you when you lie in bed, waiting for something good to happen in life. Instead, when you set an intention to get up and go after your dreams, God supports you then.”
It is good to have faith in God. But again, it all comes down to you. How hard are you willing to improve your life? Are you taking action to make your life better?
You can’t just pray to God and sit quietly. You have to show God that you are making an effort. Then, he will help you and support you in your journey.
The Moment Is Now
Don’t wait for the right time. Take the time and make it right. Don’t sit around and wait for something to happen. Don’t wait for a sign from the universe. Begin now.
Set your intention. Write down your goals. List out the things that will help you make your life better. Now is the time to take responsibility and move forward.
Remember, you have the power to make your life as you want. The moment is now.
So what are you waiting for?